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Evolved Mommy | April 18, 2015

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DIY: Find real friends on the Internet - Evolved Mommy

Lela Davidson Blacklisted from the PTA 1 year birthday featured guest


Congrats to Anita, who won her own copy of Blacklisted from the PTA!

In honor of the 1 year birthday of my friend Lela Davidson’s book “Blacklisted from the PTA” I’m writing this special post about the very real friendships that can be born online.

Some make the (too-easy) argument that online friendships can’t be real, or that these relationships are somehow less valid than connections made in person.


Case 1: Meetup | Northwest Arkansas Playgroup logo

As a new mom who was new to staying at home and living in a new (very, very small) town, my social circle felt tiny and like it was getting smaller by the day. All of my friends were at least 180 miles away. We tried to keep in touch via phone calls, e-mail and Facebook, but it turns out they weren’t up at 3:00 a.m. watching Andy Griffith reruns with a hungry baby. Their lives were in different places.

One fateful Sunday at our local church I met a meets-no-stranger type of girl named Kara, who told me about a playgroup she organized on a website called

“I know the internet,” I thought. “Why haven’t I heard of this site?”

Turns out her “little” playgroup was 150 local moms strong and they got together at different times and places several times a week.

Sold. Sign me up. play date for babies

Taken at the very first play date I went to. Thankfully, none of the moms were serial killer psychopaths.

Nervously, I pushed the doorbell button at Rene’s house for my first play date. Within minutes I had met Shannon, Jennifer, Margaret and a few other moms who had babies the same age as Charlie. We talked over each other for two hours straight as if we’d been friends for years. Why? Because we had a common interest: BABIES!

Case 2: Twitter | Lela Davidson

twitter logo

As an outgoing, social person living in a small, somewhat isolated town, the minute I learned about Twitter I was on it. Me and Shaq. And Ashton Kutcher. And Lela Davidson.

Lela Davidson

Click this picture to follow Lela on Twitter

Who? Wait, what.

Yes, kids, in the olden days there weren’t millions of people on Twitter and those of us who were there found each other pretty quickly.

Immediately I knew Lela was a force to be reckoned with on the Internets. She had written a yet-to-be-printed book, was speaking at all sorts of events and seemed to “know” everyone on Twitter.

How is that even possible?

Suddenly this person I had never met felt like a kindred spirit… a real friend. Somehow she was the perfect combination of snarky, sassy and sincere. And she lived in my area (sort of… Northwest Arkansas is covers about a 30 mile radius).

We were destined to be besties for life. Okay, well… we were probably just going to meet at some blogger event. Either way.

Fast forward to today: Lela’s book “Blacklisted from the PTA” has been out for a year and is a smashing success. Congrats friend! This is a hilarious (in the nervous-laughter-because-I-relate-all-too-well kind of way) book full of Lela’s funny take on everyday parenting situations.

Blacklisted from the PTA by Arkansas author Lela Davidson

Lela and I co-produced the Northwest Arkansas version of the Listen To Your Mother show, which was one of the most-gratifying things I’ve done in my life.

We will be attending BlogHer 2012 together next month in NYC. That’s bound to be life altering, as well.

LTYM Northwest Arkansas audience

Listen To Your Mother NWA 2012

These are my people. And, yes mother, I met them on the Internet.

The thing is: you still have to work for these relationships the same way you do with those that started in high school, or your neighborhood, at church or at the bar. If someone is important to you keep in touch with them. If not, move on.

A Giveaway!

 So who have you met on the internet? Who is your best internet friend?

Tell me about her (or him) in the comments below for a chance to win your own copy of “Blacklisted from the PTA.”



  1. Hey! Those are my parents in the pic from LTYM! Can I please get a copy of that picture?
    Pretty please.

  2. Well, I met you because of the twitters. :-) Actually almost all of the girls I get together with, go to book club with, etc. came into my life because of Twitter. And since Savannah lives nearby, we can share rides to all these things since we’re not fancy enough to live in Pulaski County.

    • Love it! Thanks for playing :)

  3. I SO wish I had known about blogging and internet playgroups when my babies were little and we were living in Seattle where I didn’t really know anyone! (15 yrs ago)

    But I’m so glad I have gotten to meet several Arkansas bloggers through events lately!

    A blogger I consider a kindred spirit but haven’t ever really met is Emily Falconbridge. We have similar child-rearing habits and she totally inspired me to be brave enough to get dreadlocks. :)

    • Hey I was in Seattle then! Left in 2000. We are going to have to cover this ground next time we meet!

  4. Jon Speck

    Met my wife on the internets! Who knew yahoo personals really worked!

    • For real? Congrats.

  5. I have been surprised at all the really wonderful people (including you… and Lela!) I have met because of blogging. I don’t think our paths would’ve crossed without that connection! But then again, perhaps so!

    • And I was surprised to meet you in real life and see that you are NOT actually a cartoon character!

  6. I have made many good friends on the internet from blogging, many I wish I lived down the street from! Probably the one I have shared the most with is Kitty, a friend in Dallas who has children near the age of mine and has a cooking blog. She’s a friend for life!

    • Evolved Mommy

      Congrats Anita! You are the winner. Your book will ship out from Lela directly at the end of this month. Enjoy!

    • Hey, Anita – thanks for playing! And congrats on the win. Sending books out next week :)

  7. The internet has given me a new life: not the old one where I was alone, isolated: but one where I can laugh every day. I love twitter. I love bloggs. I love bloggers.

  8. Some of my besties are internet finds. (Most don’t know I consider them my besties … I just stalk them.)

    • Thanks for stalking me, Heather!

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