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Evolved Mommy | July 29, 2014

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You can meet normal people online - Evolved Mommy

Returning to work has been very exciting for me. I’m proud of what I do, which is a great feeling and I love the people I work with.

Surprisingly, it hasn’t been as hard as I expected to get back into a routine of putting on clothes that don’t stretch and fixing a lunch in advance.

What’s been harder than I expected is the separation from my mama friends. We have a close-knit playgroup that started on meetup.com. The moms I call my best friends probably never would’ve crossed paths if not for that group. They are all completely unique, very loving and unwaiveringly supportive of one another.

Where are they now?

In the last couple months of the six I am closest to:

  • 2 have had their second baby
  • 1 is expecting her third next month
  • 1 has had her third
  • 1 has gotten a book deal for her 2nd book (About.com knitting guide Sarah White)
  • 1 has gone to work full time at Walmart corporate headquarters

And now they go on without me.

The first two years I lived in NWA I felt alone. Then I had a baby and felt very alone. A sweet girl named Kara told me about this playgroup she had organized online. When I checked it out, thinking it was probably a clique-ish group of 20 or so women from the same small town, I discovered there were over 150 moms involved! The message board was lively and these women were getting together all the time at different houses (not all 150 at one time) and different local play places.

A breath of fresh air

Nervously, I went to my very first meetup. Honestly, that play date just for moms of babies under one year old at Rene’s house may have been my first step out of a depression. Charlie was six months old at the time, Rene’s daughter was just a couple months ahead of her and all the rest were younger. We laid the babies on a blanket on the floor while we sat around them and talked about breastfeeding, sleeping, diapers, cloth diapers, baby toys and more.

Meetup.com play date at Jennifer's

One of our first play dates. Charlie is third from the right.

I felt like I could breath again.

Kara, if you read this I hope you know how important what you have done is. Thank you.

At a park mommy meetup on a beautiful spring day

At a park meetup.com play date on a beautiful spring day

Even though I’m not able to go to play dates anymore those friendships are more valuable to me than I could ever explain.

Meeting people online isn’t as weird as your mom says it is.

If you’re a stay-at-home-mom and needing support check meetup.com and see if there is a play group near you.  Well, even if you’re not a SAHM there are meetups on meetup.com for just about everything.  Find others who are interested in the same things you are whether it’s hiking, sewing, or even blogging.

 

Comments

  1. Thanks for posting this! so many people feel trapped and alone and reading something like this would really help them to branch out! :)) Hope I get to see you soon!

  2. Stephanie Pierson

    All of my closest friend I met through Meetup.com. The key to meeting people online is then meeting them in person and forging a real friendship. It has been a wonderful experience but I am still wary of people online. LOL

    • You’re exactly right Stephanie. You still have to build relationships. The internet isn’t magic in that way. I found I got the most reward from hosting play dates as opposed to just going to them. If no one hosts there’s no opportunity to bond.

  3. I’m not psycho, I promise! I remember meeting you at a meetup at Denny’s. Then I didn’t see you again for a long time. So thankful for the wisdom you’ve shared with me. Thankful for NWA Playgroup even though we don’t get to do much at the moment either, but I should definitely make more of an effort to get out and do more with other Moms…but after the storm blows over!

  4. Yeah, why am I not mentioned by name in this post?

  5. I love this! Heck, I kinda met YOU online…

    • Running through my mental list of friends I’m thinking almost all of the relationships originated in some way online.
      None of them seem to be the psychos my mom warned me about. We’ll see, though. ;)

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